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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 20, 2008 19:29:55 GMT
OMG, I feel so awful right now.........  Earlier today, I had a call from my mom, with some really terrible news - My sister is in hospital in NYC, and she's lost the baby!!!! When I heard her say this, I just started crying, and it took me about an hour to stop. Now, I just feel completely numb at the news. I just can't believe it, because everything seemed to be going so well for her. Of course, she's totally devastated by this, and so is her hubby - they were both looking forward to it all so much..... Apparently, she didn't feel too great, and had a few twinges and cramps. Then, all of a sudden, she went into premature labour. So they rushed her into hospital, but they couldn't stop the labour. After a couple of hours, she gave birth to a tiny baby girl. But, because she was only 23 weeks, the odds weren't good - at that age, only about 1 in 6 survive - and she died after just over 90 minutes...... Oh, God - I just can't believe it right now. I was sooooo looking forward to being an auntie, and now that's not going to happen...  We were going to go out with friends tonight, but we've called them and cancelled that - none of us feel like going out now. And I probably won't be here much the rest of tonight. I'll keep checking in to see if there's any problems and stuff like that, but don't expect to see too many posts from me tonight. |
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Post by Mischa is my life! on Sept 20, 2008 20:03:32 GMT
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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 21, 2008 0:27:20 GMT
Thanks, hun!...  I really still can't believe it either. I've not spoken to my sister yet, as she's still not feeling up to it (the docs have got her medicated to the eyeballs right now... ), but I did call her hubby and he's still in a real state of shock... I've had a couple of drinks to help me sleep tonight - without them, I think I'd probably never get to sleep tonight - but I think tomorrow's going to be sooooo hard to get through. Tomorrow night was supposed to be my first night back at the pub, but I'm seriously thinking about calling in and letting them know I won't be there. I know they'll understand why, as they're a good bunch there, and my boss is a decent guy. I'm just going to have a very quick scan of the board to see what's new, and then I'll see if I actually can get some sleep. So thanks again for all your kind words - ILY so much too, and can imagine how you must have felt when you read my post - and I'll see you here again sometime tomorrow... Hopefully by then, I'll feel a bit better and actually feel like doing a few posts.  |
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Post by mischaobsessed on Sept 21, 2008 5:05:52 GMT
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Post by meeshluv on Sept 21, 2008 20:00:56 GMT
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Post by Mischalicious. on Sept 21, 2008 22:09:21 GMT
Jo, honey.. that must be terrible for you and your family. I wish you all my best luck, and your sister and her husband... I am just, speechless.. as usual.. But I hope that you know that you can always pm me. and I give you a big virtual hug! |
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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 22, 2008 0:04:47 GMT
Thanks, Lozza, Adrian & Joyce.... Well, I still can't really believe it, but I'm starting to come to terms with it. I didn't go to work tonight - I just couldn't face having to be cheerful to everyone all night - but my boss understood why as soon as I told him what had happened, and said it wasn't a problem. Yeah, I've spoken to my sister now. I was on the phone to her for ages a while back, which is why I'm so late getting here. They've still got her on a few tablets, mainly mild tranquilizers and that kind of thing, just to help her sleep and not get too wound up over it all. She's stil pretty torn up about it all, though, and spent a lot of the time we were on the phone crying. At the moment, she's kind of blaming herself for it happening, but the docs say that's pretty normal and she should get over that as time goes on. And thanks for all the offers of sympathetic ears and shoulders - you guys really are the best when it comes to times like this!!!  But, you know, I've got both my b/f and my brother here with me, plus some really great friends here in Manchester who I can go and see whenever I'm feeling down, so I think I'll be fine. Thanks for the offers, though - I really appreciate them!  |
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Post by masha on Sept 22, 2008 6:31:32 GMT
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Post by mischaxxx on Sept 22, 2008 21:21:34 GMT
I am so sorry for your sister's loss hun. Dont worry too much there is nothing we can do really, it is just fate im sure your sister's baby is in heaven. |
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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 23, 2008 0:28:39 GMT
Well, I spoke to my sister again tonight, and she's feeling a bit better - she's out of hospital now and resting at home. Fortunately, they'd not started buying all the baby stuff yet, so at least she's not got all that hanging around as a reminder of what should have been... And thanks again for all the sympathy and support - I've passed your messages on to my sister, and she's really touched by them. |
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Post by nililah on Sept 23, 2008 4:43:42 GMT
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Post by mischaxxx on Sept 23, 2008 13:21:41 GMT
Well, I spoke to my sister again tonight, and she's feeling a bit better - she's out of hospital now and resting at home. Fortunately, they'd not started buying all the baby stuff yet, so at least she's not got all that hanging around as a reminder of what should have been... And thanks again for all the sympathy and support - I've passed your messages on to my sister, and she's really touched by them. Im glad your sister is ok now, you and your sister should try and do things to take your mind of. It was a hard ordeal that your family had to go through. I hope you and your family are ok, my prayers are with you. |
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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 24, 2008 0:13:14 GMT
Thanks, Nil.... My sister is still feeling really down, and still keeps having the occasional cry about it, but my mom and dad are there with her now, and they're doing what they can to help her. I wish I could be there with her too, but I know that's not possible right now... |
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Post by Mischa is my life! on Sept 24, 2008 0:42:39 GMT
awwww Jo u really passed her our messages?? *________* How do u feel sweetie? Your sister is lucky to have you...tell her I love her...WE all do...actually she has got people from all over the world who care SO MUCH about her!! Chin up! |
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Post by Jo Pearson on Sept 24, 2008 23:46:11 GMT
Yeah, I told her you were all really sorry to hear about what had happened and were wishing her well. She's not a big Mischa fan, but she knows who she is and what she (and this forum) means to me. I think she was a bit taken aback, and hadn't really realised up to now just what a real community we have here.... And me? Well, to tell the truth, I do still keep having the occasional little cry, but I'm coping OK generally - I've got other things to be focusing on now, especially getting myself ready for next Thursday, which I'm not looking forward to and really trying not to think about too much at the moment.... |
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