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Post by mischaobsessed on Feb 16, 2008 13:33:57 GMT
That really sucks, I know about the "I can get people to bash you" thing, except it actually happened to me and my friends and eventually I had to change schools... The weekend's half over. Waaa. Hopefully things work out for you. Ohh god, hun im so sorry! its so horrible, we've been trying to help her out for a year. she was so bad that she was in hospital for a while because she tried to you know.. kill herself. grrr, high school is Shite!
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Post by xsweetnightmare on Feb 16, 2008 13:36:31 GMT
Sorry about your friend. And I miss primary school, lol. High school is stupid.
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Post by mischaobsessed on Feb 16, 2008 13:42:19 GMT
Sorry about your friend. And I miss primary school, lol. High school is stupid. Agreed! and it dosnt help that i go to an all girl school. bitchiness x 100 is this school your at now, better than the old school you went to?
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Post by xsweetnightmare on Feb 16, 2008 13:43:51 GMT
Yeah, the school I'm currently at has slightly less people, but it's the same area...not as rough a place, though. At my old school you always heard about drug busts and gangs and that, it's not as bad at my current one.
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Post by nililah on Feb 16, 2008 15:17:04 GMT
I'm bored cause it's full of snowy here and I'll be at home all day:( and girls I'm sure you'll miss high school after u finish it:)it happened to me I miss my high school so much:)
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Post by Care Bear on Feb 16, 2008 20:58:01 GMT
I'm bored cause it's full of snowy here and I'll be at home all day:( and girls I'm sure you'll miss high school after u finish it:)it happened to me I miss my high school so much:) yeah,i had so much fun at high school it was great i wish i could take the time back... i m on a going out mood right now u all welcome ;D
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Post by mischaobsessed on Feb 16, 2008 23:23:06 GMT
I'm bored cause it's full of snowy here and I'll be at home all day:( and girls I'm sure you'll miss high school after u finish it:)it happened to me I miss my high school so much:) Yeah i guess your right, but at the moment i would love to be anywhere else but school. anyway, im in a happy mood at the moment ;D
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Post by xsweetnightmare on Feb 16, 2008 23:46:29 GMT
I'm sick. I've managed to catch a bad cold. Gahh. I'm in bed at the moment.
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Post by Jo Pearson on Feb 17, 2008 0:35:53 GMT
Oh, Lozza, hun... Sorry to hear about the problems you've been having with your friend. I know how hard it can be when you're trying to help out a friend who's got problems - I've been there myself. I've told you about how I had my "wild period" when I was about 15/16, haven't I?? Well, it wasn't just me going through it, it was my two best friends as well, Diana and Cricket (her name's really Christina, but everyone's always called her "Cricket"...). Anyway, towards the end of it, we were starting to get into certain less-than-legal substances in quite a big way, and were well on our way to getting totally hooked. But, fortunately, we got a really huge shock which showed us what would probably happen to us if we carried on the way we were going. (Basically, Cricket was living with an older guy at the time, and we all three got back to their place after a day hanging out at the mall to find her b/f dead from an O/D... ) So we all decided that we needed to get out of that lifestyle, and started to clean ourselves up. It was hardest for Cricket, because she was into it all a lot more heavily than Diana and I, and she had a couple of relapses along the way. We stuck with her, and it took about a year to get her cleaned up - about twice as long as it took Diana and I to straighten ourselves out - but it wasn't easy, and to be honest, there were moments where she was really cursing us and it almost ended our friendship with her. But we all got though it eventually, we've been clean ever since, and we're still really good friends, so it all worked out fine in the end. So I know it's not easy when you see a friend having big problems and you try and help them out. A lot of people would just walk away in a situation like that and leave them to it. It takes a special person to stay with them and try and help out, and quite often, you do end up having to become the focus of their anger and hate. But, take it from me, it's far better for your friend that their anger and hate is directed outwards at someone else, rather than inwards at themselves, because that's when the problems really begin and they do start doing really silly things like trying to kill themselves... I hope for your sake that it all gets sorted out quickly. And, if you ever want to chat, as I always say, don't forget that I'm only a PM away...
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Post by mischaobsessed on Feb 17, 2008 6:20:10 GMT
Oh, Lozza, hun... Sorry to hear about the problems you've been having with your friend. I know how hard it can be when you're trying to help out a friend who's got problems - I've been there myself. I've told you about how I had my "wild period" when I was about 15/16, haven't I?? Well, it wasn't just me going through it, it was my two best friends as well, Diana and Cricket (her name's really Christina, but everyone's always called her "Cricket"...). Anyway, towards the end of it, we were starting to get into certain less-than-legal substances in quite a big way, and were well on our way to getting totally hooked. But, fortunately, we got a really huge shock which showed us what would probably happen to us if we carried on the way we were going. (Basically, Cricket was living with an older guy at the time, and we all three got back to their place after a day hanging out at the mall to find her b/f dead from an O/D... ) So we all decided that we needed to get out of that lifestyle, and started to clean ourselves up. It was hardest for Cricket, because she was into it all a lot more heavily than Diana and I, and she had a couple of relapses along the way. We stuck with her, and it took about a year to get her cleaned up - about twice as long as it took Diana and I to straighten ourselves out - but it wasn't easy, and to be honest, there were moments where she was really cursing us and it almost ended our friendship with her. But we all got though it eventually, we've been clean ever since, and we're still really good friends, so it all worked out fine in the end. So I know it's not easy when you see a friend having big problems and you try and help them out. A lot of people would just walk away in a situation like that and leave them to it. It takes a special person to stay with them and try and help out, and quite often, you do end up having to become the focus of their anger and hate. But, take it from me, it's far better for your friend that their anger and hate is directed outwards at someone else, rather than inwards at themselves, because that's when the problems really begin and they do start doing really silly things like trying to kill themselves... I hope for your sake that it all gets sorted out quickly. And, if you ever want to chat, as I always say, don't forget that I'm only a PM away... Aww jo, you dont understand how much that ment! thankyou! and i am so sorry to hear that that happend, it must of been so horrible to find him dead. Your such a good friend to stand by your friend through the hard times. I admire that. my friend had been trying to kill herself for the past year. but the reasons didnt make sence, she needed attention from someone every second of the day, she would call us at ridiculous hours at night to say that she was going to cut herself if we didnt talk. She has had a bad home life and all but this is gone horribly wrong. We found out she was lying about having half of her problems and that she wouldnt get help because she wanted to kill herself. In the holidays she sent (via text message) us suidcide notes, that was horrific. Ive never been so upset in my life, everytime i talked to her i thought it would be the last. She would tell all her problems to me and my other friend but ive only lived as long as she has, i have no idea how to handle these problems. shes quite, "popular" with the boys and shes got them to threaten to bash us. Lets just say its gone way out of hand. To make it even worst half the school knows about whats happening, and some of my friends outside my group are starting to treat me different. Tomorrow we have a mediation meeting with the teachers and parents and my friend. I really dont want to have anything to do with her anymore, shes put me through so much, but i want to be able to pass her in the corridoors and not shit myself, not knowing what to say or what she will do. i know it dosnt sound like she's at fault, and im not trying for it too seem that way, but its hard to put in words. sorry for going on about it, but when i talk about it, it feels like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders, and since im not suppose to talk to anyone from my school or who know my friend im truly grateful to have you guys to talk to. thankyou for listening, it truly means so much
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Post by nililah on Feb 17, 2008 7:50:51 GMT
omg Lozza thats so sad:(she really needs psychological help or smt:( I mean why does she do all bullshit stuff???that's horrible:(
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Post by Jo Pearson on Feb 18, 2008 0:59:31 GMT
thankyou for listening, it truly means so much No problem at all hun - just glad we could help. And, anyway, what are friends for??? (And yeah, it wasn't a nice experience to find Cricket's b/f after he'd O/D'd - he was laying there on the bed with the needle still in his arm and everything. Well, we just totally freaked and were so scared - but it gave us the shock we needed to make us realise what idiots we were being and where we were headed. If it hadn't been for that, I'd probably be either in jail or dead now...)And my mood at the moment??? Totally knackered!!!!
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Post by mischaobsessed on Feb 18, 2008 7:03:14 GMT
thankyou for listening, it truly means so much No problem at all hun - just glad we could help. And, anyway, what are friends for??? (And yeah, it wasn't a nice experience to find Cricket's b/f after he'd O/D'd - he was laying there on the bed with the needle still in his arm and everything. Well, we just totally freaked and were so scared - but it gave us the shock we needed to make us realise what idiots we were being and where we were headed. If it hadn't been for that, I'd probably be either in jail or dead now...)And my mood at the moment??? Totally knackered!!!! Well in that case, im so glad you recovered and got the wake up call, because you are a wonderful person and we are lucky to have you in the world ;D and we had the mediation just before, and it went well. me and my friends established that we wernt ever going to be ' best friends' again after what she had done to us. But mabye one day we could be just friends. but shes apoligised for the threats and shes getting some serious help. she thanked us for all we have done and im hoping i can get on with school for know. lets say its not resolved but we've sorted things out we can pass in the corridoor and not be afraid of each other. thanks for your help and listening, means alot such an amazing mischa family mood right now: releaved
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Post by calirose02 on Feb 18, 2008 11:30:14 GMT
Well I'm happy now - it's study week and I'm at home with coursework to do
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Post by Jo Pearson on Feb 18, 2008 14:33:29 GMT
Thanks, hun, and I'm glad things seem to be working out for you.
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